“I like how sleeping next to someone means more than sex sometimes, the body’s way of saying ‘I trust you to be by my side at my most vulnerable time,’ you have no defenses when you are asleep, you tell no lies”
something my therapist told me that personally has been rather helpful is that coping skills are not to make us feel better. they are to create space between u and ur feelings. they r to help u cope and do what u need to do. they are not meant to resolve ur negative feelings. if they do, that’s a bonus. but if they don’t, that’s ok. learning that honestly helped so much. i’m such a perfectionist that i can’t even cope if it’s not gonna be perfect and this like took a weight off my shoulders. if i use a coping skill and don’t feel better, that’s ok. i am simply trying to distance myself from my emotion. i felt like i wasn’t coping correctly before i learned this. like maybe i was doing something wrong or there was just something wrong with me.
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